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Complex Numbers #1007766 added April 5, 2021 at 12:01am
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Procrasti-later
Here's another one for all my fellow procrastinators out there. I keep meaning to get a procrastinators' convention together, but can't ever seem to get around to it.
The article is dated from mid-January and I'm just now posting it.
Sometimes we just can’t make ourselves do stuff! Last month, when I asked people to talk about times they’d opted to not do something that they could also simply… do… my mentions were flooded.
Example: taxes. Here in the US, the Federal income tax deadline is usually April 15, though it's been extended this year due to... you know. Individual states, the ones that have state taxes, have different deadlines. Either way, it needs to be done soon. My accountant has been bugging me, and I've collected most of what I need. The rest? Well. I'll get to it eventually.
I can't tell you how many times I've mentally prodded myself to Just Do The Thing and yet fail to do that very thing. Until it's the last minute. Or after. Blogging every day has helped a little bit with that, but the underlying problem (me) remains.
Whether it’s watching your plants wither for weeks before repotting them (total time to complete: six minutes) or waiting until you get pulled over to replace the registration sticker that’s been expired for a year (that was me, I did this), a lot of folks are procrastinating on alllll kinds of little things.
How about procrastinating on getting someone to edit your article?
Why, exactly? When it’s relatively simple to Do The Thing, and when the consequences of Not Doing The Thing can be serious or fairly unpleasant, why do so many of us look the other way?
Of course the article goes on to answer that question. It's a Vice article, not clickbait. Oh, wait...
“We get punished for being late in our culture,” Ferrari said. “We don’t get rewarded for being early.” And when you internalize the message that there’s no point in being early, you can apply that to any task that needs doing.
Well, that's just a matter of point of view, isn't it? If you're a procrastinator, things are often late and you suffer negative consequences. These consequences comprise your default. So anything better than the default is a reward, such as not suffering negative consequences. That's the same thing as a reward in my book.
“Procrastination is an avoidant way of coping,” Sirois said. “How do I manage uncomfortable feelings around that paperwork I have to do? I know, I’ll put the task aside and feel better about it. Ah, I feel better already. You just managed your mood by procrastinating.”
This makes sense. To go back to the taxes thing, I always end up owing money. I do not want to pay money. So I put it off. Which sometimes means I owe more money.
That fear of fucking up can keep you from starting in the first place—even if it’s a little thing like taking five seconds to write a text or answer an email. And on the other hand, if you do a good job... well, what if you can’t maintain it? What if you can’t do it as well the next time?
Which may explain at least one reason I haven't really pursued story publication.
Procrastination tends to be a solitary struggle, but literally everyone does it!
I know people who don't. Stop misusing "literally."
And if this behavior has become a regular occurrence—the kind of thing that’s paralyzing you in your personal and professional life or preventing you from reaching your goals—it might be time to talk to a professional. Chronic procrastination can be a symptom of anxiety disorders, depression, and ADHD; a mental health expert will be able to tell you more.
I've had a shrink's number pasted on my board since December. Have I called them yet? What do you think? |
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